Understanding Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to gain and maintain power and control over another person through fear, intimidation and often violence. It can take many forms and affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or background.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you are not alone. The CDC reports that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner during their lifetime. If you’re feeling unsafe, unsure, or afraid, there is help.

What Are the Signs That I May Be In an Abusive Relationship?

Does your partner ever…

Hit, punch, slap, choke, or shove you?
Damage your belongings, furniture, or walls?
Prevent you from seeing friends or family?
Control your money or make you explain everything you spend?
Belittle you in public or private?
Show extreme jealousy or make false accusations?
Force or pressure you to have sex against your will?

These are all examples of abusive behavior. If any of this feels familiar, you are not alone. You can talk to someone who cares and who will listen:

What to Do if You Are Being Abused

Find a safe place. Your safety and your children’s safety come first. If you can, stay with someone you trust or reach out to a local shelter for help.
Call the police if you are in immediate danger. Try to stay calm. Share what happened, including any injuries, and ask for a police report. If you want your partner arrested, let the responding officer know.
Get medical attention. Visit your doctor or go to an emergency room. Tell the provider how you were hurt and ask that the information be documented.
Know your legal rights. The Onondaga County District Attorney’s Office can help you understand the criminal process. You can also get information about Family Court from an attorney or a Vera House advocate at the courthouse.
Get counseling for yourself and your children. There are always professionals and people just like you who can talk with you about your situation.

Visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to learn more about the dynamics of domestic violence and abuse.

Find Help

Shelter Programs (Available 24 Hours A Day, 7 Days A Week):

Law Enforcement Agencies

District Attorney’s Victim Assistance Program (Monday-Thursday, 9am-4pm)

To initiate a criminal proceeding:

Onondaga County District Attorney’s Office
505 South State Street
Syracuse, NY 13202
315-435-3916 ext 305

Family Court

To file a family offense petition:

Room 101 Courthouse
Syracuse, NY 13202

24-Hour Hotline Numbers

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